do the "mental movies" ever disapate? I am trying, but sometiems the waves of emotions get me and i start to slide back to my "old ways" - which does no one any good (hey at least i learned that about myself right...lol).
i am trying to break that - any suggestion on how to slow down the rollercoaster of emotions that generate in my own little head?
1) Loving detachment. This will work or it won't. gman will be a better person with or without W.
2) Hard Exercise. When I just couldn't take the images any more, I lifted weights until I was about to pass out. Running works, but for me I had to have the headphones with the running. I really pushed myself to make it all go away.
3) Feeling it over time. You really do have to feel all this stuff. Once you've dealt with it, it will start to go away. That's why drugs/alcohol don't work. They only delay you actually feeling all the pain that you need to experience. (That said ADs can be a real help. I think they "spread out" the pain.)
I can honestly say that at one time I couldn't go a minute without picturing the infidelities. A year later, I had to be reminded about some details that I thought would never leave my head. It does get better.
SpinFree
That's a helpful post Spinfree.
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You really do have to feel all this stuff. Once you've dealt with it, it will start to go away. That's why drugs/alcohol don't work.
Don't hide from what you are experiencing.
"In my dream I was drowning my sorrows But my sorrows, they learned to swim."
- Bono, Until the End of the World.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
