H did come home for the night early...actually he called around 5pm and woke me up to tell me he would be home after his evening meeting He noted I didn't sound well so told me I didn't need to cook anything fancy for supper.
He strolls in @7 with a bottle of wine in his hands and a smile on his face Was a pleasant surprise even though I wasn't up to drinking any last night
Yes, it is possible that he was displaying nervous behaviour for all of the reasons you've stated... it's also possible he was just blowing me off because the subject didn't really matter to him either
H is one of those guys who will nod and say yeah in all the appropriate places and not hear a darn word you say to him I catch him in this all the time...I start talking inanities or just throw in something totally off topic, he keeps nodding and saying yeah
I do know that H gets annoyed at too many references to OW or past behaviours His thinking is that it is over, I'm stupid and/or paranoid for continuing to think about it and since he is over it I should be too. He is happy and content with the way things are now, he isn't worried about him slipping up again, he is sure in his feeling regarding us and the M/R now so I should of course share those same feelings. For the most part I do but I still maintain a certain level of pessimism. That is something that I have to work on I reckon .
I guess I'm still unnerved by H's complete turnaround. We aren't talking about just a return to H as he was during the beginning of the R...we're talking about a whole new H altogether. Someone who is expressive of their feelings both in words and actions, someone who surprises me on a near daily basis. I'm not use to this...it isn't something I have encountered in ANY R I have been in and for some reason it causes me to keep my guard up to an extent
I'm sure I'll muddle through it and will eventually come to accept the changes in H as something that is 100% for real and will stick...I guess it is just going to take more time then I expected it to.
Hugz, Zoo
"If patience is worth anything, it must endure to the end of time. And a living faith will last in the midst of the blackest storm."
- Mahatma Gandhi
He noted I didn't sound well so told me I didn't need to cook anything fancy for supper.
Was a pleasant surprise even though I wasn't up to drinking any last night 
His thinking is that it is over, I'm stupid and/or paranoid for continuing to think about it and since he is over it I should be too. He is happy and content with the way things are now, he isn't worried about him slipping up again, he is sure in his feeling regarding us and the M/R now so I should of course share those same feelings. For the most part I do but I still maintain a certain level of pessimism. That is something that I have to work on I reckon .
