Are you getting good marital advice?

[saffie]

I have never seen it either, nor read an infidelity expert who has any confidence in that approach.

Just because you haven't seen it doesn't mean it doesn't happen. Maybe you haven't been on here long enough or had the patience to follow one of the threads where it has worked in this manner. Lord knows it was frustrating at times reading some of those threads, like Alisuddenly's. I did advise her at one time to give it up as a bad job. Luckily she ignored me. I found myself getting really mad reading her posts at times - it was like watching a car crash in slow motion - but somehow it righted itself.

As I have repeatedly said, it's not my style, but it works for some and therefore I try to keep an open mind. there is not a one solution fits all.

Try and keep an open mind Allen. I agree with you mostly but I do feel you are slightly blinkered and also abrasive.