Ya know, its been over a year from when i first mentioned "signing off" this bb and yet ...
It takes a quite a long while to deal with the aftermath of a life-turning traumatic event to get to the point where we can admit that we are healed from it. In a way, we are learning to become comfortable in a whole new "normalcy". It so different from what we are use to, its gonna some time (there we go again...) to adjust to the point where all the good stuff you are experiencing now becomes "familar" to you.
A lot of folks unfortunately do leave prior to expressing their experiences during these times and I know personally that it I would had helped me out some to hear some of them and is kinda one of the reasons at least that is what I tell myself) I have stuck around.
This bb can be a two edge sword at this phase. We read of other's pain and wondering if what we have is real. Don't ever let what you read here generate doubts of your H's actions. They are always to be taken at face value. THEY ARE WHAT THEY ARE!! Affection given should be always be affection received!
On the other hand, it does help some from "sabotaging" their efforts by continuing to journal and seek feedback.
Of course, the bb can always use more veteran DBer's to spread the wisdom too.
... but in the end, its all about what works for you...
