How (and who) to expose if OP is not married

[4luv]

I haven't updated because well nothing really to say in my semi-protection phase. I am guessing that is also why mb28 hasn't updated either :-)

Again, haven't been fully NC but almost. It feels like husband has just written me off (he might feel that from me too even though it is not true). We probably communicate every other day or every two days at this point instead of our usual multiple times a day. He called to ask me our son's size while he was shopping and then told me about some physical therapy appointment he went to. I didn't act or seem interested and just ended the call after telling him what size to get son. In an earlier call during the beginning of this week when he was wishing my mom a happy bday, he told me that he was ready to move on. The next time we talked (a few days later) I missed some of his calls and when I called him back he acts like he called me by accident so I say ok then I am gonna go. He then tells me that I am acting cold and distant but this is also after he told me that he was ready to move on. I didn't remind him of his comment the other day that he was ready to move on but simply said I had to get back to work.

It really does feel like husband is moving on. Husband didn't come to the therapist meeting (called to say he couldn't make it down). We don't talk which is actually fine with me at this time. My husband has made himself the victim. HE thinks that I am treating him cold, I left him, he is the victim and he must figure out how to move on.

Its a fine line to lovingly detach. I am not sad for some reason (most likely due to the nice weather :-)) but I am in a state of asking myself where is this marriage going. I am willing to put in the work but husband hasn't moved towards me and instead is moving away as I pull back on communication. Any suggestions? I guess this why I feared that complete NC would really signal to husband that I have moved on completely.