Glass argues the same thing June.. I don't have the pp # handy, but Glass discusses PTS as well.
I can quote roughly here offhand that she compares the experience of infidelity fallout to be very similar to the behaviour of people who have been victims of a violent crime - assult, rape, etc
In short, they feel violated, vulnerable 24 x 7, and have nightmares that repeat the event or variations of it.. reliving it on a nightly basis
If my memory serves me, Allen, I think it was Steven W. Harley that, in his speeches on infidelity, compares it to gang rape, saying that it's actually WORSE. The argument he makes is that at least in the case of most rapes, the attacker is a stranger, whereas in infidelity, the person hurting you is the one who swore to LOVE you, and to forsake all others for.
I believe he actually had a woman come up to him after one of his speeches, and tearfully share with him that she HAD been gang-raped, and she had also been the victim of her husband's cheating, and she agreed with him -- this was worse.
