There is so much truth in that detaching article. Grit- thank you for the clarification..that was helpful. . Like Meg, this whole thing has impacted my health..well my weight. 5'8 and now 118 lbs..I am typically thin and no history of eating disorders..but my normal weight is around the 135 mark. I am finding it very difficult to eat..well to find anything appealing to eat...and the past three days I have literally forced myself to eat even though it was making me a bit nauseous.
Pearl- I just got done reading Kara's thread...she is definitely in a better place than I. Although I carry on my day to day like her..hang with friends..pilates..see family- I have a very busy social life..I am even exploring different job opportunities- I started at my current job at the same time I met my H..so I am thinking about making a move. In front of friends and family- they see me as a rock. So on the outside I am able to do this..but on the inside something very different is going on. I know these negative feelings come and go...but when they are here..they just feel like they are NEVER going to go away. Ironically..it is that time of the month ; ) So I am trying to just weather the storm. Just in a funk right now.
I am going to the attorney tonight...which is probably another reason for my 'funk'. I filled out some forms and printed them out. Lolawar vs Mr Lolawar- it made me sick to my stomach to read. Just never thought this would happen. I am not going to go thru with filing tonight..but I am going to have all the paperwork ready for when/if I make this decision.
Kara's story gives me a bit of hope. Perhaps I do need to give this a bit more time. I just feel like there haven't been many positives lately...which really makes you concentrate on the negatives.
Meg- good luck tomorrow.
Questions..when I spoke to my H over the weekend..he said we should probably talk more..but he hasn't really reached out very much...just little things here or there. Should I make some kind of effort in trying to reconnect? Or should I let him be the leader in all of this? From livestrong: Placing of all things in life into a healthy, rational perspective and recognizing that there is a need to back away from the uncontrollable and unchangeable realities of life.
How do I balance attempting to reconnect and detaching at the same time? I think the above advice is the most challenging for me to follow.
