Yes, many times people assume that all situations are like. If the situation is one of infidelity, then they might project their situation onto the one seeking advice. But all situations are not alike. And the people involved come to it with different histories, and different ways of interacting. Human relationships are very complex. There is no one size fits all solution. I do think that some posters are so angry in their own lives that they bring that anger to every situation that they see.
Lotus, I hear what you are saying, and it is of course sometimes true. But I actually think most INFIDELITY situations, anyway, DO follow one of only a few basic "scripts," and that more people actually make the OPPOSITE mistake, thinking "Oh, my situation is DIFFERENT!" and "MY wife would NEVER do that! I trust her completely!"
It's almost scary how SIMILAR the sitches are. It's how I'm usually able to predict what's going to happen next; it has nothing to do with any uncanny ability on MY part, and EVERYTHING to do with how similar the basic scripts are when it comes to cheating spouses.
