What I don't think is necessary is your phrasing at times and what seemed like a personal attack on another poster.
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Although you seem to think you and Puppy are singing from the same song sheet, there is a difference in the style with which you two deliver your information/advice. I would suggest you read Puppy's posts more closely and adopt his slightly more diplomatic style.
I like the way Puppy talked about the change from infidelity to piecing. He is right. Maybe part of the problem is that sometimes the posting from those of us in piecing is a stage too far forward for the infidelity forum at times?
Yeah, I'll vouch for Saffie -- she can be a hardcoldbitterbitch as well as anyone! She is OLD-school, but well-read, thoughtful, and sensitive, and that's what I love about her.
Saffie, I think part of it is what you say about coming from the Piecing section, yes. I've noticed that when you're dealing with similar tracks, just two different stages of those tracks ("Newcomers" vs. "Piecing," or "Infidelity" vs. "Piecing") and I've definitely noticed it when you're dealing with two totally different assumptions about what the underlying problems are ("Infidelity" vs. "Midlife Crisis").
But I also think part of it is just style. Allen (to me, anyway) comes across as a guy hell-bent on a mission, he's here to cut-to-the-chase and get to the bottom of things, and he doesn't worry about who he might offend along the way. I think his underlying advice is excellent, however, and on-point for most adultery situations. Our friend Gucci Loafer is like that. Robx can be sometimes too, although he does it with many more words, and has shown a "softer" side the past several months as well (sorry to blow your official membership in the Hardass Club, Rob -- you can keep your keys and ID badge, tho ).
It's just different styles. I pray every morning on my way to work, and part of my prayers is that the advice that I give on here will be godly, of use to people, and that God will give ME wisdom and discernment when responding to people. But I fall short many times, and I think my own short, oftentimes snarky, hurry-to-get-to-the-next-Newbie style offers quantity at the expense of QUALITY sometimes, and when I take the time to read my best stuff (I sometimes like to go back in a "success" situation, where someone has said I was helpful, and re-read my old posts to them to see HOW I was helpful), I see that my better posts are the ones where I take the time to respond to people more fully. With more examples from my own personal situation. When I take the time to read their entire threads, before posting to them, etc.
I too have been accused of coming across as abrupt, snarky and even rude sometimes. I certainly don't intend to. But I also see the HORRIBLE, HORRIBLE PAIN of people suffering from affairs, I have a gift of discernment for knowing when they are occurring (sadly, I'm nearly always right), and I just want to hurry those folks thru their pain and wake them up to what's happening, so they can hopefully bust the affair and begin to heal their marriage.
She is OLD-school, but well-read, thoughtful, and sensitive, and that's what I love about her.
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