I haven't read much about your sitch, but any chance that your W would consider Retrouvaille? Two couples in the forum have recently found it very helpful and recommend it even for couples where one person is not motivated to reconcile...
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
