New here but have been a voyeur

[Surviving03]

man... did I need to read that thread about detaching with love... I am to a point now where I feel like I HAVE to detach for my own health and sanity! Its hard because I have been dealing with this for almost 6 weeks thru long distance (H has been in Iraq) but he is coming home tomorrow, but there has been NO progress or sign of hope... he fed me little lines of we will see how it goes when i come home, but in the meantime has made nothing but further steps towards being single, such as buying himself an expenive new car and planning a trip to Vegas in two weeks instead of actually giving it a shot with me, and telling EVERYONE and their brother that he is getting a divorce and says it in a way as if he is almost bragging... incredibly hurtful... will he come out of this fog he is in, i dont know? But i can almost guarantee it wont be before he files for D, especially since we are overseas and he is going to want to get me out of here soon since his orders for his next base will be coming out next month, etc... I am fairly certain he will file for D while he is on this little trip and then come home and have me served... so there is nothing I can do but try to detach just so i can stay sane... its hard as hell.... but i have to get to that point...