feel like giving up - pt 2

[ImprovedRomeo]

luvless, I haven't read your sitch other than the last couple of posts. It sounds to me that he's very unsure of himself if he's making passes at you and being an @ss at the same time. What I suggest doing is:

1. Stop pursuing him if you aren't already - you have nothing more to lose - he'll do what he wants to do and pursuing him only makes him bolder and you little in his eyes.

2. Remove yourself from the environment if possible, even if you have to be in the same house, sleep elsewhere, or set boundaries. You don't have to be mean but you need him to feel the realities of being without you. Initially he'll be mad but sooner or later he'll realize what it means to be without you.

3. Spend time with the kids, friends and family - make your own plans, do things that you want to do. Don't make him the center of your universe. It's important that he sees you as a strong independant person who's not dying for his affection.

You can't control anyone's actions but your own and through your actions you can change others behavior.

In my situation, my wife and I were apart for 2 years (I've been here since 2006), she filed for a divorce, came back. 2 years later she moved out again recently.