Spouse Suffering From Depression

[Lucky11too]

Thanks for checking. I'm doing ok but the last couple of days have been ridiculous with work. I thought it would start easing up but it's just been so crazy! Missing lunch, working late...no good! But now I think it should start calming down...I hope!

Things with H seems a little off but nothing major. On Sunday he texted me that he had this dream where he caught me with a new boyfriend at yoga class. He said how he has never been so worked up over a dream. I wasn't really sure how I should respond to that so I joked that "see, you want me! =P" Later on he kind of joked that if this dream was any indication, I wouldn't want a new bf b/c it wouldn't be pretty (for the new guy's sake). In reality though, he better get used to that idea if he doesn't want to get his act together and want to be with me. The reality of that dream is in his hands now.

Besides that, it's been pretty quiet from H. I texted H on Monday night to see how his day was but no response. I know this is a busy week this week with March Madness starting, but still, it just really irks me when he can't take 1 second to respond. I texted him again yesterday morning at 4:00am when I was rudely awoken by that crazy earthquake. It was a relatively small one but I still raced to S's room as you never know how big it's going to get. It's always a little scary, so I let H know we were ok. He texts back that he didn't even feel it b/c he was driving. My first thought - driving at 4am? Great, out partying again. Then he said how he was just coming back from the gym. Oh, opps. One thing I've noticed, is that I always assume the worst with H. Although his history would give me a valid reason for thinking that, you know the saying about what happens when you "assume". Luckily I didn't make any comments this time, but something I definitely need to watch for myself. I didn't hear from H at all last night, so I didn't even say good night since he's probably too busy to respond anyways. I'm struggling a bit with how to proceed. I want to be very careful not to overpush and get too attached, but on the other hand, I want to keep the momentum going and keep the connection open. I don't know how much to invite him to things (ie dinner etc) or when to initiate texts, or say good night. There are always these fine lines and it's just hard to know where your walking...