Are you getting good marital advice?

[newmama]

It is possible to bust the affair and at the same time destroy any hope of reconciliation. How is that a success?

Agreed!

That is why I feel it is necessary to remind people that this is a bulletin board, not a therapist's office. There are real Divorce Busting counselors, but you don't find them on the bulletin board, they do phone counseling at the number above.

And my DB coach's advice was in total conflict with what so many posters advised me to do. My point is that the posters are using real life experience and not MWD at times. But we just need to point that out every now and then and be aware of what we follow and what we don't.