I didn't answer because I didn't want to be sucked into a conversation about HIS D and of course I didn't want to have him entice me into being upset.
DU,
This is a very good attitude to have right now.
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I was trying to hold off on having any contact with H, but they are "pressing" for an answer;
As I told you before, you can ask but you can’t expect him to honor your wishes.
Personally, I do think that you should just tell people to contact your H directly as you don’t know what his schedule is like. Nothing more, nothing less.
You don’t have to answer any questions to anyone that you don’t want to, however, you do need to prepare that he may say something to people about the situation.
Our friends and family mean well. They care about us. They want to offer support and advice when they can. However, you do not have to take it.
If someone asks you something you don’t want to discuss, it is OKAY to simply say that you would rather NOT get into the details of anything.
As far as attending any functions….
Do you think that would benefit you in any way? I don’t know if I do right now.
Destiny, you are struggling right now and while you ARE doing a bit better, it is very important that you put yourself first right now. Take care of you and your needs right now. Before you worry about anything else.
Your H, if he lets these things happen, HE can be the one to do the explaining of where you are or aren’t. His choice….
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
