It's just that I try to provide, here, whatever I feel might be MISSING from the other advice people are getting, and -- in general (past 30 days or so on the "Infidelity" forum notwithstanding), for every 1x post about "hardball" you'll read 10x about "Bo-Peep." Puppy
I pretty much have the same view pup... most people read MWD while their spouse is overtly cheating on them and they page through DR and are shocked to find their Bo-Peep approaches aren't working.. shock of all shocks.
If you are willing to accept that infidelity is an addiction, you have to accept that hardball tactics are almost always necessary...
And advocating them here does provide some balance when as you pointed out here, most posters newly arriving to the Infidelity forum here don't consider or haven't been educated about infidelity and addiction.
There is no conclusive way to prove beyond a shadow of a doubt that infidelity IS an addiction, for that matter anything, but if you can accept that, the rest of the advice is to my mind suitable.
