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[psluke]

HELL!!!

I lost the damn post again

I will type it out in word and then post it later.

Zoo

EXCELLENT IDEA!!!!!!!!

[shinybear]

Does something NOT want me to see your dream?

Nah! Just bloody computer bs!

Shiny

[Zoo]

In my dream I am driving down the street and my car breaks down. I start walking up the street to the gas station when some folks I know stop and offer me a ride. As we are going down the street we pass by a 2 story white house with a black roof and those black faux vinyl shutters. There is a large garage and a big parking area. I am seeing this house from the back not the front. I also see my H’s truck just pulling out of the parking area of this house. I turn to Carol who is sitting in the back seat with a questioning look. She has gone kinda pale and has that “oh [censored]” expression on her face. I ask her whose house it is. She says that it is Annie’s place. I ask her how long it has been going on. She stammers, reaches toward me then pulls back her hand and sighs and says “a while”. I look out the window and notice my H’s truck pulling up alongside us. It has two people in it. I roll down the window and stick my head out and just look at H. He sees me and spits coffee all over the windshield.

I motion to H to pull over which he does. I go over to the other side of the truck and get in…crawling over Annie’s lap and seating myself between them. Annie asks H who I am but he says nothing. He starts up the truck and stares out the windshield, chewing on his fingers like he does when he is stressing out. I say nothing as well.

We pull into the parking lot of a restaurant and go inside and sit down. I am totally focused on H and barely notice when Annie excuses herself. Some people that H works with come in and come to the table and sit down. I am assuming that H and “friend” were to meet these people here. Dan looks back and forth between H and I and asks “what’s up”. H looks at him and shakes his head. One of the other guys asks where Annie is. I decide it’s time for me to go to the restroom so I excuse myself and tell h I will be right back. When I come back to the table everyone is gone. I walk through the whole restaurant looking for them as well as going outside and looking on the eating porch. I ask a waiter if he saw where they all went to. He tells me he doesn’t know. I go out to the parking lot but H’s truck is still there. I decide to go back in and wait for them at the bar. After about an hour or so they still haven’t come back. I call someone to come pick me up. I can see H’s truck through the window of the restaurant and he hasn’t returned to it either. When my friend Lisa gets there I get in her car so she can take me home. As I turn to see if H might have just returned I realize that the restaurant is part of a hotel complex. I assume H is probably in the hotel someplace but decide to go back home and wait.

H finally shows up at home at 2 am (as usual). He just stands there and stares at me. I look at him and say “so it’s like that again, huh?” H replies “no.” I ask him what it is then. He tells me he doesn’t know then asks me to not leave…not yet. All I can do is look at him sadly and shake my head.

Then I wake up.

Zoo

[Zoo]

Ok...

When i had the dream i woke up several times only to have the dream to resume where it left off on my waking. This really sucked

The only person I know named Carol is my step mother. It was not her in the dream. I don't know any people named Annie, Dan, or Lisa either although my mom's dog is named Annie.

The city I was in was familiar too me. It felt like I was in VA again...emphasis on AGAIN.

This dream really bothered me because:

1. I haven't had a dream about H and anyone else for several months now. It has helped me tremendously not to have those dreams anymore.

2. Normally in my regular dreams the people don't have names and their faces are always kind of fuzzy or generic...just another face in a crowd, ya know?

3. I always dream in technicolor but it is usually only in my premonition- type dreams that there is soooo much attention to detail. And the detail in this dream was unreal!

4. Thinking about this dream and writing it out leaves me with that all-to-familiar sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach.


I realize that the dream can be interpreted as my fear and feelings of insecurity are still making themselves known. I have been telling myself that the dream was probably just a result of too much electrical activity going on in my brain since I had a seizure the following day. The dream hasn't faded though and is still startling clear.

I had a similar dream about H and OW (the one from this past year) 2 yrs before we moved to IN. When H introduced me to OW I knew it was the one from my dream. I tried to warn H about her but he blew me off Earlier this year I dreamt about H and OW and the dream was so complelling tha I woke up freaking out and just bluntly asked H if he was cheating on me with her. His response was "Noooo...why?" I told him about the dream, that it was one of THOSE kind of dreams. He said it wasnt true

Now I gotta figure out what to do about this one

UGH!
Zoo

[shinybear]

Yes, as dreams go, this is a doozy...

Zoo, all I usually deal with are run of the mill, symbolic dreams, the ones our normal unconscious processes put together for us to ponder: insecurities, fears, wishes, etc.

I HAVE had the "other kind"...like you...double dreams sandwhiched between tear strewn wake-ups of CJ making passionate love to an unknown blonde woman...unkown until she sent me a photo of herself via e-mail months later.

So....that said, has anything happened in the day or so before this dream that might have triggered wariness, doubt, suspicion? Even an internal event, memory etc?

I find it interesting from a standard dream interp that at the beginning of the dream you are driving your OWN car (cars represent the self, the mobile self, driving = control over life's twists and turns). BUT here your car BREAKS DOWN...

I think your idea of where the names of these strangers comes from is a solid one.

My question is what might have prompted your sleeping mind to choose THOSE particular names? What does your step mom represent to you?

She is the one "telling you" that there's been an A going of for "a while"...is she a trustworthy source?

Now Annie is her DOG? I LOVE it!! Just think of how clever the sleeping mind is. No matter if you love the critter, how often have we referred to straying men as "dogs" or women as "b!tches"?

Now...in the restaurant, you are totally focussed on H and don't even notice when "annie" disappears...

This IS interesting, isn't it...sounds an awful lot like what is said around here: the OP is NOT the problem!

Now I'm not sure about the inclusion of folks from his work...do you suspect that a potential OW might lurk there? They appeared to know her in the dream. Who is Dan?

The return from the bathroom...everyone is gone. Did you feel anxious to find your H? Feelings are real important to the interpretation. Or did you feel okay about it?

Either way it signals a disconnect, losing touch and the like. (I often dream that I need to call Cj but somehow can't get the call through)

In the final scene he denies everything and asks you not to leave, not yet.....

What is YOUR take on the dream, Zoo? Do you think it is somewhat literal, or perhaps predictive?

I know that I had a VIVID dream of CJ talking on the phone with OW several months ago...I woke up sobbing. I DID tell CJ about it, but only because he wondered why I was so "down" that day.

This one, it turned out, WAS just a vivid flashback, perhaps of the early days of doubt and shock.

I also wouldn't rule out your hypothesis about the seizure lending extra vividity to this dream...so why not try to look at it in both ways: symbolic, and premonitory?

Shiny

[Zoo]

Thanks for reading my stuff Shiny

So....that said, has anything happened in the day or so before this dream that might have triggered wariness, doubt, suspicion? Even an internal event, memory etc?

Not that I can think of. We were pretty relieved when H found out he wasn't going to Iraq,Co or anywhere else. X-mas was excellent...we spent it with my parents (one day at their house and one at ours). H even commented that this is probably the BEST x-mas he/we have ever had. H has been in a great mood and very,very attentive. He has even been COMPLIMENTING me As I have said, I stopped having those types of dreams a couple months ago so to have one come out of the blue like that, when everything seems to be going so well, was not expected nor appreciated.

I find it interesting from a standard dream interp that at the beginning of the dream you are driving your OWN car (cars represent the self, the mobile self, driving = control over life's twists and turns). BUT here your car BREAKS DOWN...

Yes, I have read this before and always found it somewhat amusing It is also interesting considering I don't drive at all...unless I can sneak the keys and creep out when H is asleep. H made me promise not to do that anymore either His not taking me to renew my license was further insurance of keeping me out of a vehicle

I think your idea of where the names of these strangers comes from is a solid one

Do you really think so?? The woman in my dream looked nothing at all like my step-mother? As a matter of fact I wouldn't have associated her with stepmom at all. That is just the only person i know by that name. Ironically enough I found out this weekend that H DOES work with a woman named Carol...I found this out after the dream though.

My question is what might have prompted your sleeping mind to choose THOSE particular names? What does your step mom represent to you?

She is the one "telling you" that there's been an A going of for "a while"...is she a trustworthy source?

To be honest she really doesn't mean a lot to me at all. We last touch pretty much and the last couple of times I tried talking to her she couldn't understand me (I was stuttering pretty bad then) so the calls didn't last long. Yes, at one time I would have said she was trustworthy. I don't know anymore for sure though.

Now Annie is her DOG? I LOVE it!! Just think of how clever the sleeping mind is. No matter if you love the critter, how often have we referred to straying men as "dogs" or women as "b!tches"?

Annie is actually my mother's dog, not stepmom's. Your analogy is the first thing I thought of though. Blondish women = blond female dog (BEOTCH!)

Now...in the restaurant, you are totally focussed on H and don't even notice when "annie" disappears...

This IS interesting, isn't it...sounds an awful lot like what is said around here: the OP is NOT the problem!

Yes, her significance seemed to fade in the dream too at this point. When i came out of the bathroom in the dream and saw everyone was gone I realised that she hadn't been in the bathroom either. My assumption in the dream was that that is where she excused herself to.

Now I'm not sure about the inclusion of folks from his work...do you suspect that a potential OW might lurk there? They appeared to know her in the dream. Who is Dan?

THe XOW was someone H works with. The interpretation could be that I still feel uneasy about H still working around her I suppose. I don't have a clue who Dan is nor Lisa. I KNEW them in the dream though...that is a certainty.

The return from the bathroom...everyone is gone. Did you feel anxious to find your H? Feelings are real important to the interpretation. Or did you feel okay about it?

I was ok at first but then an urgency started kicking in. Finally I just gave up, resignation I guess you could say. When I got home in the dream I wasn't angry or freaking...just kind of sad.

What is YOUR take on the dream, Zoo? Do you think it is somewhat literal, or perhaps predictive?

TBH, my take is that it was predictive...it had that feel to it...that "this is a possibility if you go down this path". That is the problem with predictions, there wasn't enough NOW-ness about it for it to be the near future so I have to ask myelf if this is something that will occur if I stay on my current path or something that will be the cause of a later action? Maybe I'll get an answer to it or maybe I won't. It hasn't repeated itself yet either which would be an indication to me that it wasn't imminent. I also have to remind myself that it plays heavily on a recent event in my past and that could be all it is as well...a reminder.

Can you tell I even analyze my dreams to death, regardless of what type they are ?

When it comes to ME I second-guess everything, rarely take my own advice and usually berate myself for a fool later

Thank you Shiny so very much I will keep my eyes open for any tell-tales (without seeing them EVERYWHERE ) but also take into consideration all you have said as well.

I just wish i would have had my "falling from a Pteradactyl nest" dream...at least that one i KNOW and understand :P

Hugz,
Zoo

[shinybear]

Sounds like you have a good handle on your nocturnal forays into dreamland, Zoo!

And I totally agree that even premonitions are of what MIGHT be.

What do you think about sharing this dream with your H? With CJ it's really easy as we often share and help interpret each other's dreams.

Now about that pteradactyl's nest?

Shiny

[Zoo]

No Shiny...I did not and will not share this particular dream with H. He did ask me about it, I just said it was a bad one and left it at that. I did later ask if he knew anyone named Annie...he said "no, just Annie the dog". He asked me why I wanted to know , I just shook my head and walked out of the room. He could probably guess at the dream but not much else.

My reason for not telling him might seem childish...it kind of does to me H takes my dreams quite seriously...I didn't want to get his hopes up or lay any enabling groundwork. I've often wondered if I didnt do that before when I told him about my dreams regarding XOW


Pteradactyl dream.... That is my FALLING dream. Momma Pteradactyl scoops me up while I'm running and deposits me in her nest with her chicks (I'm their lunch! ) The chicks start getting pisy with me and are pecking me and I trip over the edge of the nest and start falling. The funny thing is is that I do hit bottom every once in a while but i don't die. just do a belly flop in the dirt, get up and dust myself off and continue wondering around Dinoland. I think I watched too much "Land of the Lost" as a kid :P This is the only falling dream I have

I have other recurring dreams too...most I don't mind or are just kind of annoying

I've thought about keeping a dream journal but I'm pretty good about remembering my dreams. What is weird is that H says HE doesn't dream hardly ever at all or at least not that he remembers. I tell him he is full of crap because he moves around too much in his sleep and mutters and mumbles

Oh, here is a question for you I use to walk and talk a lot in my sleep and even would strike out and hit people if they touched me while I was sleeping. I was notorious for htis on board ship when i was in the Navy and it got me written up a time or two I do none of these things now and haven't done them since h and I got together. What would cause such a drastic sleep habit change??

Hugz,
Zoo

[shinybear]

First and foremost, ZOO I don't care HOW good your memory is start keeping a dream journal!! Today, right now!

Seriously we lose an amazing % of the dreams and or details if we don't record them asap. There are times when all I'll have is a suggestion of a dream about such and such and I have to PRINT OUT what I wrote that morning to remember the details!

Also, it's a great habit to add a "thoughts" section at the bottom of each dream (date them of course!). In this section I note any connections, interpretations, any parallels to the FEELINGS or THEMES in the dream and what's going on in my waking life.

Also look for plays on words, images which make puns

There's an infamous dream of a woman who dreamed she was in a swimming pool with her 8 year old on her shoulders. Her H was supposed to be taking a photo, but the woman kept going under the water sputtering and gasping.

What came to her as interpretation was, well simple and succinct...she was "drowning" under child care responsibilities and her H wasn't "getting the picture"!

I LOVE that one!

Falling dreams are fairly common...but pteradactyls???

Land of the lost...how old are you? That was my era!

You see, if you kept a journal, you could look back to when you had these falling dreams and be able to link them up with what spurred them in your waking life.

Feeling "preyed upon"..."feeding others"..."being pecked to death"...etc.

Falling usually means being out of control, fear of failure, but in your dream, it's pretty much an ESCAPE isn't it.

And an escape from a NEST (Hmmm...lots of possible associations there, huh?) with hostile inhabitants.

Have you ever turned the fall into flying, Zoo? My first flying dream involved me trying to escape a witch in my headboard (mom?), becoming LUCID (aware) in the dream and realizing that If I jumped out the window I would fly, not fall...so I did!

You working nights, Zoo?

Shiny

[holdingon]

Zoo,
How was your Christmas, and how is the cookware?

What if you don't dream... or don't remember any of your dreams?