kat,

I often refer to the line from "Born in the USA" by Springsteen, when I describe how I felt at the end of my "trying to make it work",and how I now think about my kids:

"End up like a dog that's been beat too much, so you spend half your life just a coverin' up"

(BORN IN THE USA, BORN IN THE USA!!!)

I think it might be about a year away when S12 tells STBX how he REALLY feels.

He's a pretty gutsy kid (He recently whacked a 16 year old kid who is a high school sophomore across the back with a lacrosse stick, because the kid was mercilessly picking on one of S11's friends and made him cry!)

It'll be ugly.