I sense that he is not telling me the whole truth because he still tries to avoid the possible fall out it would cause. I am closer to thinking she knows OW, she is interested in him etc, than that he is interested in her... After all, guys, he has sgiven me the password, if they were seeing each other I am sure she would be the first one to know.
This sounds right to me. I think he is afraid to admit to even knowing her, almost. So he goes into denial instead. Which leads to the half truths and suspicions. At this point, I would say to concentrate on his actions. He talked with you, as much as he can. He held you, and gave you some of what you needed. It's still one of those steps in the right direction!
I think she tried to IM him, he didn't respond, and when she closed it, she let the system send it to him as an email. I think he is pretty close to innocent in this one, other than probably downplaying the fact that they do know each other. But again, that's his fear.
