Here's another resentment possibility, and I'm sorry if it sounds harsh, but it is possibly an unstated (or even unacknowledged) take from his angle. H: I know you had tough times, but what about me? You got this house, that inherited retirement, and your work $. Plus I took care of you emotionally during that time. What about me? I'm less financially successful (stable and independent and did not inherit anything), and here I am "taking care" of you. What about ME? This is why I am unhappy. This time it's going to be about ME.
I guess I'm saying don't underestimate the effect that money and career success (and perceived imbalances of) has on H's. Even ones who claim to be liberal. It's a recurring theme on this board.
