I don't know what to say because as you know when I was in piercing and my STBXH was doing all the right things, except for those little vibes that I would get (which in the end, I know he was lying to my face about).
I am a firm believer in that gut feeling thing. If I would have listened, this would have been done for me back in Oct 08. Half ass explanations of I don't know how I broke up, I can't bear to talk about it.... it's so hard on ME.... WTF... it's hard on you too. Your emotional feelings are just as important as his and don't put yourself on the backburner anymore.
I am not saying he is wrong, cheating or anything but his stance sounds vaguely familiar.
Take care girlfriend!
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too