Believe it or not 6 or 7 years ago my now XW had intercepted e-mails between me and a co-worker. After rereading them I understood how it made her feel. Actually I thought at the time that she over reacted. I apologized and assured her that there was nothing going on. Of course I did not have the rap sheet that your husband has. But to June72's point I doubt I (or anybody else) would come out and say to their spouse well I kind of like her or she is cute etc. So after your convo in bed etc., you still feel things are not crystal clear. I will be brutally honest here, when I first read your post (not the one about the BoB), I thought oh no, here we go again. How much can a woman take...no wonder he is not stepping up. Then I remembered my e-mails and how innocent I was and how angry she was. Finally, the chat or text explanation is also very plausible. Sometimes I get e-mails from GF and realize that she finished off the chat. When you press on a name on your list and they are off line, you have several options. One of them is send e-mail another is send SMS for example. It is possible that they were chatting..... You are face to face with him, you know best. If he is actually at home and being there for you and going out once a week etc.... I can't believe he would do this... It must be extremely difficult to live with someone and not trust them enough to have to go through their e-mails etc. I hope this is nothing and he is as innocent as I was. If I remember correctly, I made sure that my wife at the time had no doubts that she was number one in my books.
