I remember getting "called" on some comment or tone of voice or something a while back, and thinking inside...if you only KNEW that what I did was only a quarter or a fifth of the intensity, swiftness, and volume that I initially felt! ...I mean I had really reigned it in and felt I'd done well!
Frankly I'm glad that CJ doesn't use the words b!tchy or whiny...I think that would anger me more, they're very vague and very dismissive.
Wonder what your H would say if you asked him at that moment exactly HOW what you said and how you said it was whiny or b!tchy...in a tone of sincere inquiry of course!
Seems to me he's hearing (as you said) what he's programmed himself to hear.
...I mean I had really reigned it in and felt I'd done well!
