5 more days till the Big D

[~Sol]

Hey brknheart, just chiming in. I wish my XW had the common sense to try mediation since it would've drafted up the same paperwork that atty's and courts do. For some bizarre reason she didn't want to and chose the hard way. My X is not really all there, (coo-cooo is right!) So instead of forking over the $300 I was willing to pay for mediation, I paid for my own legal and court fees (more expensive of course), but that process is all done now. It's also strange when the one continuing the A wants to be "friends" with you and thinks that everything is all righty-o. My X tried this once, having her second secret bf and me on the side while we were separated and "working" on our M - when I discovered this second A, that's when I decided to push for the D. I'm sorry you are going through this, the emotions tend to sting longer than the legal process of ending a M. But you are right in keeping your life private from her eyes - our X's can be coo-coo on their own!