I disagree on the no touch thing. It was instrumental in bringing my DH back from his EA a number of years ago. However, she has to initiate it. And she may.
You're doing a lot right.
Wonder if you know OMW enough to introduce her to DB? Wouldn't it be ideal if both sides were getting busted?
What I didn't read in this sitch is what caused the distance in the first place. Were you emotionally unavailable? If so, detaching may not be the best. We you too needy? Then GAL works well. Etc. You must have some insight, although you may not agree with what she's done, feelings are feelings and are neither right nor wrong, they just are. And her feelings are that her needs were not getting met. What were those needs? That, my friend, will be the key to getting her to reattach.
