Oh, I wish you hadn't done that. All is not lost, but you did make it hard on yourself. She's pressuring you and not acting like herself. You gave in to the person she's become, who is not your W. Don't leave the house, stay, be kind, be polite, refuse to get involved in any arguments, validate, validate, validate. In my state, the spouse who leaves will not get custody - it's considered abandonment. Distance yourself, do something new - take up an exercise program, music lessons, a new language, anything. Become mysterious. She's winning because she knows she is affecting you. Distancing yourself emotionally - detaching - is critical here. Get a life. YOU NEED to do these things. She will get pissed, oh yes, she sounds volatile, she will get angrier than a tornado... but eventually when that doesn't work to get her way, she will realize and change tactics. Hope you like roller coasters. Keep us posted.
