I dont know who is lerking in the shadows she is extremely secretive with her computer, and ive stopped spying and am trying to work on my last resort. I think I need to get her to move out, but ofcourse she wants me to leave. Im actually considering leaving and let her deal with the problems of the house. She has been looking for a place, but not sure what she is going to do.
me 46 w 42 m 18 years this april two boys 24 & 14 bomb nov. 9 2009 still fighting to hold on
This brings back memories. I personally never found an OM but I suspected an EA for this same reason. Your thread brought back some painfull memories.
Sadly I did all the wrong things and did not db until it was too late. But I honestly believe she had her mind made up years ago. The whole facebook / classmates / secret marathon cellphone calls were simply her way of finalizing her escape IMO.
I am divorced now and in the process of detaching and getting a life myself. I feel your pain as I have been there.
But remember this, things WILL get better whether your marriage surives or not.
Me:48 W:55 M:22 T:23 Bomb:19Nov09 S:15Jan10 D:11Feb10 EA:Confirmed on 20Apr10 Fast track to her divorcing me
DO not leave your house, you are not the one that wants out. Get with the affair busting experts on here to expose the affair which most here will say is crucial for the survival of the marriage. ie Puppy.
who and where are the affair busting people, and how do I contact. need to know quickly, I asked W point blank this morning, if there was someone waiting for the papers to be filed before he gets involved, and ofcourse she denied any such involvement. She is pushing really hard to file papers tomorrow.
me 46 w 42 m 18 years this april two boys 24 & 14 bomb nov. 9 2009 still fighting to hold on
You do not have to do anything quickly, Tomorrow there will be more people on the boards, Puppy Dog Tails would be one that would follow, look at his posts until he can contact directly here.
I'm really sorry for what you're going through. Your wife is lying through her teeth. Believe me. If you want to know what she's hiding on her computer, do the following:
Does she have a password to log into her computer? If not and you have access to it when she's not there, then you can install a program that sends you emails about all the activities your wife is up to. The software I used which works amazingly well is called PC Pandora. It's $70.00 (down-loadable) but I was able to find out everything. Just make sure you watch the how-to vids for setting it up and practice (there is a demo version) on your own machine.
yesterday i seriously caved wife gave me an ultimatum, I either go to the notary, and sign the divorce papers or she will file for a contested divorce and have me served. so I took the lesser of two evils. She has been extremely persistant, then tonight I asked her if she felt relieved that I signed the papers and she replied she didnt know. A little while later she admitted she didntn go to the court house, and she was off work today. then she asked if I was relieved that I signed the papers and I explained that I had to choose the lesser of two evils. would appreciate any input about this, Im not getting my hopes up but I have to admit I smiled a little on the inside. She is taking my youngest son to the wisconsin dalles, for three days Ill be curious to see what transpires, during that time
me 46 w 42 m 18 years this april two boys 24 & 14 bomb nov. 9 2009 still fighting to hold on
