I had to talk to him. I tried to do it the best way I could. It helped that I wasnt mad or anything. I was just "prepared" an dthat IS sad to be prepared to be let down by your spouse/partner.
He had not seen it. He opened his account in front of me and he said the time stated was wrong, he couldnt figure ot out. He told me at 9:50 he was sleeping in bed and my parents who live in the same building can tell me what time he left (around 12) and that in the evening we were actually on the phone at that exact time which is true.
He said he wouldnt even call her a friend. They see each other at the hallway of the buidling they work in and she knows he is married with 2 kids, that he has been separated because we were separated when he met her, I ma not clear if she knwos we are back together now.
I told him the way I read this online email shows familiarity and doenst come from a girl thats' work on the same floor. I told he I wanted to reply and tell her "He is just fine and if he is not, he cant talk to his wife about it". He said I was right to think this way. He couuldnt explain why she sent thi so late at night, why she put a time on the subject that seems wrong etc etc
I told him it reminds me about the OW and how he denied, etc etc He said I need to trust him some an dthat I should be able to think when i saw the email that "no way, my H wouldnt be invlovd with her". I couldnt help laughing. I said "either that or think you are cheating and throw your stuff out tonight, but none of the 2 options is wise, I take the middle road, trust but ask/verify/keep my eyes open".
An interesting convo started after that. I need a coffee first... K
