A LBS lies to him/herself and anyone involved for a duration of time. To defend themselves, to think: "how could my spouse do this to me, I did NOTHING wrong". When in time, the LBS comes to find that they most certainly DID have their hand in everything.
Conversly, and obviously over a much larger span of time due to the severity of their actions, a WAS will do the same. But until that clarity comes, the LBS will always be 100% (or as close to) in the wrong.
Hindsight, everybody is in a "fog" of their own. No?
DDay,
Great posts above, I agree with you wholeheartedly. BTW, I haven't checked your sitch for awhile, I'm very happy for you and your family. We can't get enough good news around here IMHO. I hope things continue to progress in the right direction for you. I'm pulling for you guys!!
P.S.- Don't fret about the hijack- something tells me Mom won't mind.
M: 41 W: 39 S: 11 S: 10 D: 4 1st contact w/OM: 1/19/09 EA began: 2/14/09 EA discovered: 3/1/09 I file for D 8/25/09 to protect myself _______________________________