I would like to bring this back to what I consider the simplest of truths. People do what is best for themselves. Marriage is voluntary. If a man or a woman is in a marriage where his or her needs are being met, and he or she is being treated nicely by the other person, s/he is likely to stay, and not to stray. On the other hand, if the spouse is angry and suspicious, treats the spouse coldly and never says nice things to him or her, that person will look for an out. Therefore, if you want to have a happy marriage you should be nice to your spouse. That does not conflict with any experts in the field of marriage. In fact, Harley advocates letting a wife who returns from infidelity know how much she means to you and giving her roses and candy. I will go get the exact quote as it is on another thread.
