You dodged a very fatal bullet there my friend.. that alone you should be celebrating already.
But you seem to get the idea of not pressuring your WS and that she has to return at her own pace.. you can influence that pace by behaving in ways that would draw her closer, but it really must be her choice.
Telling her how you feel isn't just pursuit, she really is into how she feels right now.. she isn't concerned overmuch about you... she's overwhelmed with her own feelings.. they are rushing around at a high pace in her mind right now.. its very hard to cope under those circumstances.
Telling her how you feel will just add to that stress, it won't heal or repair any damage.
