oh, and my H's OW was in the picture for a year. does it make things harder? yes, but it doesn't matter. in my sitch, and I credit my strength to God, after I got over my initial pityparty and depression, I got really really focused and knew what I needed to do and I did it very consistently. I had so many questions I remember, and trying to figure out every little thing he did, but that was just on the boards.

I'm not trying to brag, but if I had not been consistent, and not been focused, I'm pretty sure I would not be here with my H today, or it woulda taken a whole lot longer.

I know this sucks, and we want to help, if you will let us help you.

Me 33 H 34 S9 S3
M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs)
EA/PA 1/2006
DB 5/2006
H wants D 6/2006
H wants ME 8/2006
H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006
H erased OW off phone! 2/2007

"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."