I know flow but I do feel like people think I haven't done enough DB'in and somehow it's my fault H hasn't turned around. He hasn't turned around because ow is still in the picture!
His gaslighting trick this weekend (although he was drunk) really confuses me though.
Oh well so be it in the life of a WAS.
luv, it's not that I'm blaming you. I am trying to help you do the best you can to have the best chance in saving your M. The things I have learned is that you can do things to make your chances smaller, and things to make them bigger. your M was already going to most likely fail, but you had a chance, you had a choice to do the best that you could to help save it. Now, I am not in your shoes, and I can only give you advice from what I know that you have told me personally and here. And that's why I have felt you had a lot of control and hope.
of course, if you had done everything perfect to the tee, only God is the one who would know if your M would have been saved. But I know this, the more consistent you are, the easier, and better chance you have.
All we want is to help you save it because that was your desire. Your H has been like this for 4 months...well, I don't know any WAS that only took 4 months. Again, this is about what do you REALLY want. and are you going to take the steps to put you there.
If you can't handle H, then maybe you should do what I said about quiting. You still need to save yourself and do practically everything the same. the differences are the boundaries that you place with your H and your interaction with him.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
