I can understand your anger and your pain. IMHO, (because I've experienced a similar sitch) there really is nothing we can do but let them live their own life. I cry when I hear at bible studies that the "sexually immoral" will have no escape, because I still love my H. But, that's past now, and we really are of two different worlds and our morals and ethics have parted ways. Yours will too, in time, and it will be food for your soul.