Starting Over (Again)

[Quart9]

The donkey says, "Hee haw, hee haw." Is that what today felt like? LOL!

Cautious no one should judge you for that decision you made. It is your body and you are a grown woman. You have the right to do whatever you want.

It’s just like anything that happens to us in our sitch's - it occurs, we have to deal with it, and we have to learn/grow from it.

I wouldn't feel bad for telling Ex's family and friends the truth (especially if you are asked by them). The dude shouldn't be making you out to be a psycho to them. The common theme (of course) is for our Ex's to down play us to their fam and friends. I guess it makes them feel better. It’s not fair to you.

You should not feel sorry for him not having close friends and family (especially if it’s because he lies to them). Like G450 and others have said - you have to detach from him. The interactions, thoughts, missing Ex, and communicating with Ex will all just wear you out. It doesn't seem to get you very far except more hurt.

As far a seeing Ex, I have only experienced it a couple of times since my W and I split, but it’s like you have this built up anxiety and excitement to see them. You hope it goes well and then you want more. It’s heartbreaking.

I don't blame you for not wanting to bring dates or another man around your son. Seeing someone that actually WANTS to see you though seems like it would be good for you. You're too young not to get out and enjoy life and find someone else to really enjoy it with.