Gee, Zoo, did you just decide to make yourself feel totally lousy last night or what? Here comes the 2x4...
Why are you worrying about when/where the deployment comes? You said yourself it could be months. Why not instead use the time to have fun with H, strengthen your M, great sex or whatever his LL is? You said yourself
Quote: Let me bring SOMETHING good to this post. H has continued to be wonderfully affectionate and loving. If I didn't know better I would swear he was on drugs!! He is sooo unlike the H that he was. Lots of touching and holding, smiles and goodness
Why go down that tunnel that he is going to give up on your R because he is deployed? And hold off on the "what if" talks. They may come when he hears where/when he is going. Why do you bug him about "what are you going to do IF"? May I remind you he is a man? Isn't he thinking about NOW? Isn't he being wonderful and affectionate NOW?
AND, how do you KNOW that you are not getting a wedding ring? It sounds to me that your H is playing with you about he cookware. When you told him about telling him what you wanted for Christmas
Quote: H said "you did, I don't remember that...what did you say?"
Your H is not deaf is he? Are you sure he's not playing with you? I mean if he told you you were getting a ring... what fun would that be? Can't you wait a week to really be disappointed??? Don't take the fun out of it for him, but better yet have NO EXPECTATIONS at all... let what happens happen. And, if no ring, take that new skillet and whack him one on the head...
Hey, my H asked me "you aren't getting me anything are you" which I, of course, took to mean "cause I certainly am not getting anything for you."
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.