New here but have been a voyeur

[nicole8]

I TOTALLY FEEL THE SAME WAY! I would like to just know the outcome now, is it worth the pain and waiting. Can things be what they were before....Would it be easier to just give up now? But what about the fun person my H used to be? Can he ever be who he was? Can he forgive himself for what he has done and get the help he needs?

I find myself trying to think of how the same amount of pain can be put on him. I know that isn't fair because he is really experiencing pain and does think that the only way to solve his problems/issues is to be divorced and start over without the house, dog or ME!

I do need to be his friend, but that is really hard to do. He is hard to talk to now, he doesn't want to talk about much at all. How do you connect or talk with someone who thinks it isn't worth their time because they think the marriage is the problem??? WTF, I feel like this is a no win situation.

Sorry, just venting and hopefully helping you know that I actually do feel your pain to some degree.