I don't like the term starter wife either. I agree with rr above. Tell him you need some time and ask him to respect that you're not anxious to jump right on in and start dividing your assets.
How do you act when you're in the same house? Entertain yourself, keep yourself happy, take what he has to give - and leave the rest.
Me: 26 Ex: 27 Son: 5
Divorced: 3/2010 Each day is another opportunity to do it right.