I am realizing that we can talk about detachment until we're blue in the face. You should see the guys on my thread hammering me with it. I have a big tattoo on my forehead that says DETACH. You are not going to hear this until you are ready. You will only detach when you realize that living their pain with them is to painful for YOU.
I think I am finally getting there. Look at your post up there. You are expecting, hoping, wishing for him to do something, to feel something,to show you something. You are focused on HIM. You are focused on your M. Guess what? There is no marriage right now. You have to STOP. You have to DETACH. Take care of YOU. It is the hardest thing you will EVER do in your life. Believe me. I haven't even done it yet it and it is the worst thing in the world. It's worse than the A. Cause you can't do it with anger. You have to let go with Love. Otherwise you die inside. Does this make sense?
I always use the analogy you don't die from a snake bite, you die from the poison. That's what I was talking about earlier when I said when you make this decision do it when you're healthy. You won't get there unless you detach.
I think you have enough information to know that this is not the right time for MC. IC for you definitely. I said up thread that you will find the truth here and through this process. You have a lot of truth staring you in the face.
Stay with it. You're going to get there.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
