Too Late For Us?

[jasper67]

I agree

[TooLateForMe]

Thanks 8.

Its not that I am concerned about her being angry. I am considering how my holding on makes her want run. I feel like I am playing Russian Roulette. I am thinking: "If the let her go by signing the papers, maybe, just maybe, she will feel differently once she knows she 100% free to choose." I don't know if I am thinking straight anymore. I have a counseling session on Thursday, maybe I will discuss this with the counselor first.

I think this is a common dilemma. It does happen (spouse, once freed, realizing his or her mistake). My advice is to back off, and give yourself time to make a choice based on your needs and what YOU feel is right. If she doesn't like the wait, then tough. You're both in a terrible situation right now and what is right for one person isn't always right for the other. This is a monumental decision.

I've been waiting for the magic phone call for six Mos. I've been in a holding pattern. You can't control your spouse, so move forward with the attitude that it's your life and she can play a part in it or not. If she does, then you can compromise, until then don't.

I don't know when or if I'll think straight again, so don't worry about that. Be cautious and don't agree to or do anything until it is well thought out.

Lots of luck.

[mrbt]

I did it. I signed the divorce papers this morning.

Wife visited last night. We watch television in bed for a couple hour. Drank some wine. It was a nice peaceful and relaxing evening.

Then, just before I she left, things turned ugly. She got upset/angry because I was pleasant, as if things were normal. As if were were not in the process of getting divorced. She ranted and raved and demanded I sign the papers.

This morning I decided to just get it over with. I drove to my attorney's office and signed the papers. It has been a very sad day for me.

[Coach]

Wife visited last night. We watch television in bed for a couple hour. Drank some wine. It was a nice peaceful and relaxing evening.

Then, just before I she left, things turned ugly. She got upset/angry because I was pleasant, as if things were normal. As if were were not in the process of getting divorced. She ranted and raved and demanded I sign the papers.

Yep, she got mad because .......... you weren't fufilling the villian role. It works so don't stop doing it. Next time stand up to her ranting and raving. Go get a spew raincoat. Anger is good, means she is conflicted.

[mrbt]

Someone should open a Divorce Busters Pub. I need a beer tonight.

[ShockedOne]

Feel free to get that beer tonight. Many of us will be there with you in spirit having our own. "cheers"

[rr22]

Ditto. Cheers.

[mrbt]

So, here I am. I signed the papers and have been mostly down in the dumps. Today I am feeling better. I think signing the papers has taken some of the pressure off.

[ShockedOne]

There will be down moments, no doubt about it. However, you will no longer need to take any more crap, be told what to do, and can totally move on with YOUR life.
Sorry and congrats at the same time.
Shock

[mrbt]

The mornings suck! For some reason, this stuff really hits me hard first thing in the morning. I was actually doing very well yesterday. I was feeling okay. I spent some time with the wife late last night after she got home from work. She told me I was acting weird (she is used to me be down and I wasn't). It bothered me that now when I am in a good mood its considered abnormal.