Don't feel bad flowmom, I got chasticed for using the dreadful b$$$ s$$$$ when I first started posting to our lovely Kalni too!! they really need to keep a list of running rules around here! LOL
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Ok, need your advice, quick! It's almost 1 and he will be here soon.
For those of you that are on FB you may have seen that I've been feeling weird today. I think I posted here too. I feel like my blood is pumping and I get dizzy, and my heart seems to be missing beats. It feels ...scary. So, a few minutes ago, I checked H's email. There is a message from a girl with the subject "Our chat this morning at 9:50, 16/3/2010" "You sounded really down today, you want to tell me what is going on?". This is a girl I know works in the same building with him. I have asked him before about her during discussions about things being open between us, not keeping people excluded from each other as a way to enhance US vs the world and he told me she is a just girl he knows, an aquantaince.
Clearly, she is at least a friend. The reason I asked about her months ago was because she had been senting him funny youtube videos and one of them adressed only to him which felt ...weird.
So, what do I do? Do I ask about her? I want to use this incident to make him unerstand that unless I am a part of his life, not excluded from new friends and all, as long as interested women dont get a clear message he is with me now, I cant relax. I sense she is interested, I had this feeling the first time I saw her name and he had trouble figuring out who I was talking about. I dont want to let this go.
I am wise enough to listen to my voice. Not making up excuses for him. I think this is what I have been feeling all day. I wonder if I am in front of another disclosure. Anything is probable in this life.
I know if I dont say anything, he will erase the email. Thoughts?
I would go with your intuition and mention that you saw she sent him an email and that it makes you very uncomfortable. You want him to let you know when she does this as you have a negative feeling about the correspondence.
Take deep breaths and stay calm. kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Funny thing is in her email the subject says at 9:50PM, that is morning, right? He left home much later because he called me and she write "he didnt LOOK good"... Hmmmm There we go again...NOt doing this for much longer...
I'm guessing that you'll feel the need to bring this up...so can you frame is as "wow, I was surprised at how much reading that email was a trigger for me...I could use some reassurance right now"?
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
