Your w sounds like a drunk, a cutter, and extremely manipulative.
That crap about you "assaulting" her while she was asleep is pure B.S. too.
Oh My!!!
A "drunk" is someone who drinks every day and to the point of affecting their daily life. While my WAW has used alcohol as an escape in the past, she is not a drunk.
A "cutter" is someone who does so on a semi-regular basis. Not someone who did so once in a moment of desperation.
While we are on the topic of definitions, as per the legal definition of assault, I did assault her.