Puppy, I’ve been following your advice elsewhere on the site and trying to apply where relevant to my sitch ---- WAH involving PA (OW overseas), separated 3months, baby # 1 due in 2 months
Just been reading another thread where you talk about ATTACKING the affair.
Did that. But not sure if it’s over or not.
One month ago, it was “not over”, then 2 weeks ago, “there’s no relationship” (why? Cos she lives 10,000kms away?)
When I ask if it is still on, he says “It’s my intimacy. It’s none of your business and I won’t tell you”.
Thinks his stance is justified because he’s told me in no uncertain terms that we are “over”, so I have no right to information.
All signs of an exit affair? I think it’s a way of him beating with me a stick & proving to me we are not worth "fixing".
Currently working on GAL, 180s, detachment and boundary setting...
How HARD/SOFT should I behave at this point in time?
And is NOW the time to do the CANT BE FRIENDS, LET ALONE BEST FRIENDS, line...or should I do what BD coach says and concentrate ONLY on restoring non-hostile communication with him?
Me 36; H 40 baby born in May M:13, T:15 Bomb (OW): Dec 09 began DBing: Feb WH overseas with OW old: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2027369#Post2027369
