I hate to say it considering my sitch and an attempt to alas drop the rope...your post made me cry.
I won't blame you if my rope dropping doesnt go well...
lol
Seriously, I think that's awesome and I know only a few sitches get to where you are...I firmly believe that those that do will be stronger M's than ever!
I'm beyond blaming myself for everything in my sitch...I do love my wife very much and would change everything to save the M...but I know at this point w has to want it.
I hope someday soon W will face her demons and see what I see.
I hope to have your success...
Until then or until I find someone new, I am living for me now and addressing all of my issues...for me.