Did I say that some posters browbeat and insist that their advice must be taken?
I don't know, Lotus. Allen's posts are not the ones that lately I find to be argumentative and insulting. I thought it was actually a pretty civil, and certainly THOROUGH, point-by-point response to your ad hominem attack. You must have a different definition of "browbeating" than I do.
I love MWD's teachings. Her Sex-Starved Marriage saved my sanity, and eventually, my marriage. And for that I am forever in her debt, and since she is our gracious hostess here, out of respect for her I try to avoid any out-and-out disagreements with her approach. Her approach to infidelity is, however and in my opinion, not in line with the best consensus research that is out there. While one can certainly incorporate "GAL," "180s" "Act As If" and the like into an overall infidelity-busting philosophy, they will not be effective unless the affair itself is attacked as the ADDICTION that it is, and the ATTACK ON THE FAMILY that it most certainly is.
I base my advice on the teaching of Michele Weiner-Davis, Harley, Glass, Eggerichs, Smalley and John Gray, mostly. Plus my four years' worth of experience studying literally thousands of affairs, approaches taken, and what works and what doesn't. No, I don't charge for it, but I'd like to think it has some value, and I think a lot of folks here would say that it did, for them. At least I hope so.
For the record, I practice what I preach, we busted my wife's affair inside of 3 months, and we've been married for 25 years next month, and are currently enjoying the birth of our first grandchild. My wife not only ended her affair very quickly, but she THANKED me for taking a strong stance, and fighting for her and for our marriage, and she said "I was pissed, sure, but I really RESPECTED you for it."
