8 weeks until D Day!!

[flowmom]

Lea, as a parent you have to focus on what you can do here.

- support your boys in communicating with your H

- communicate to your H on behalf of your S (by their request)

- making it clear that you can listen to your S's feelings and experiences without bringing your own stuff into it

- facilitating a therapeutic R between your S and a professional

It totally sucks that your H is being so insensitive. But it seems to be part of the really crummy parcel that you have been dealt with.

Draw yourself up and be the best mother that you can be. Your confidence, warmth, dignity, and strength can make a huge difference for your boys. Make it OK for yourself and make it OK for them by how to you frame it and the tools that you give them.

Read some of Kalni's posts in my thread where she's written about what she's learned about how her setting the tone and failing to set the tone has affected her children through the tough times. She has some very wise words.

You can do this!