Originally Posted By: Round2
OP,

I don't know what you mean to use them to control him?
I have not been controlling since he left us in Dec, I have only been respectful and understanding...when I should be a raging lunatic of a wife... !!! But I am not... smile


I think OldPilot is referring to this:

Originally Posted By: Round2
That, however, does not mean I am o.k. with him bringing other woman around my children. As close as we were as a family and inseparable as we were, my children are too young and they would not understand this.


While I understand your feelings, this is not something you control. You can set clear boundaries and enforce them, but you cannot make him do anything, even if it's for the benefit of the kids. He is free to develop his own crappy relationship with them.

Me: 44, Wife: 39
M: 17 years T: 20 years
Bomb on 08/25/09
1/13/10: MC started
1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs
8/28/10: Wife moved out
No talk of D, no movement

"Every day is another chance to get it right."