I never said she did say that. i simply said that experts don't reccomend that.
It wasn't a strident interpretation, it wasn't an interpretation at all. I am implying that being NICE doens't work. A common line of thought in infidelity expert's thoughts on the subject is that being NICE will NOT make much of any dent.
I could go back and find many posts that contradict experts on teh subject not to mention MWD herself if you like, but again, my time is valuable and its best used to help those here combatting affairs, not debating strategies that are already well-researched and laid out in texts for people to read on their own time.
I would love to post the entire book of Not Just Friends on this site if I had the time, but I certainly don't.
But I will post this, an endorsement from MWD that is printed on the COVER of Not Just Friends :
So illuminating, instructive, down-to-earth,and inspiring that it truly transforms lives. Since no marriage - including yours - is immune to infidelity, this book is a God-send.
That being said, I think MORE attention should be paid to such experts in dealing with affairs. I have yet to see Lotus post one single reference from an infidelity expert...
The idea of dismissing expert opinion in favour of her own is what I consider "strident" in this case. And I wasnt' the one who opened the subject.
If you are going to attack someone's advice, its best to make sure yours at least has some credible refrence to back it up.. in this case there's none.. simply clumsy Sabre Rattling
