Thanks for responding. I am okay by myself financially right now, but a divorce with child support is my main method for financial security once the baby is born. That's why I sort of have to push this divorce through. (There's no legal separation in my state.)
I had always planned on working 35 hours a week, and I'm hoping to keep that schedule. I love my job, fortunately. It's been another source of peace during this crazy time!
My mom and aunt are here right now, so I do have family support. I even have his family's support, fortunately. Not that they don't support or love him, but they do think he's in the wrong.
At this point, I'd like to do NC longer. It really helps me because when I see or interact with him, it sends me down the tubes! So I think I need a bit more NC to be able to do this divorce without being an emotional wreck. But I want to work with him in the divorce, so contact will have to start sometime soon. Plus, I have to coordinate taxes a bit! Our only contact for most of the past two months has been logistical anyway, so I guess I'll have to start that again. Or I might go through a 3rd party like his sister. Not really sure.
I hope that at some point he will want to interact with the baby. I'm glad to hear, newmama, that your WH visited daily. (What does the W stand for? I assume "wandering" or something like that? :)) I don't know if I could get mine to visit that much, but even once a week would be good.
Also, thanks newmama for showing me the benefits. I actually feel them already!
I'm very interested in your stories, so I'll try to find your original threads. Thanks!
me, 30 WH, 29 D born June 2010 M: July 2001 Bomb/S: 1/14/10 Done with it all.
