Thanks everyone! You don't know how much your support means to me!

I'm sad to say so far I"ve let you down - I overslept this morning - didn't want to get out of bed. Now I"m awake and S is still sick so I"m picking him up from school early to spend the day with him.

I realized H was probably very upset that I wouldn't let S go to his apt. I have not yet once let S sleep there and only generally said ok to S "visiting". It's part of my bitterness I guess. I feel like H should be working toward being at home more, not less. I also can't stand the thought of losing my S. LEaving was not my idea so I don't support it. Also, I"ve given in to H's stupid demands so much - the legal sep, giving him "time" to figure out what he wants, stopped asking for any time with him...I feel like this thing I don't want to give in to.

HOwever, I woke up realizing he was probably mad about this last night - S was sick so H didn't want to come over to germ house, but probably would have liked to have S at his clean apt. When H is mad, I usually cave. Even when it's a bad idea or I don't believe in it.

I almost called him today and offered to bring S to his apt just to avoid the anger, and also out of guilt. But didn't.

Am I being too stubborn? Controlling?

Thoughts?


Me: 42
Him: 43

Two divorcees in a relationship